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From: Moderator
To: All
Date: 2013-12-01 00:00:16
Subject: Netiquette

                    Communication Etiquette in Modern Media
                                Author *Unknown*

When involved in communications, especially in computer echos, awareness
of certain concepts make the activity more fun for everyone.  Two main
concepts stand out, primarily because people tend to REACT to negative
messages with negative responses.

1. Impersonal responses to personal attacks:  Computer communications
are almost always written.  Due to the fact that words carry only
limited information, the noise to information ratio can become very
dense, with a sentence the sender considered very mild becoming a
hurricane of emotion in the mind of the receiver.  Therefore try to keep
personal nouns and pronouns, like "you" and "your" out
of any message
that may cause disagreement among the other members of the echo or net.

If necessary to express disagreement with an idea, couching the words of
your message in impersonal terms works best.

Bad response:
"I think you are stupid to think motherboards should just be thrown away
rather than fixed." This message may well cause the receiver to respond
with some nasty reply, clogging the net with negative personal argument.

Better response:
"I have always found that motherboards could be fixed."  This presents
an opposite view, but the receiver will less likely consider it a
personal attack.

If someone disagrees with you personally, or even attacks you viciously,
you have three options on an Echo or Net.  You can simply ignore the
message rather than responding.  You can respond in an impersonal but
polite way, not letting the attack affect you at all.  Or you can send a
message to the Moderator, expressing your unease at the tone or attack
of the message you received and let the moderator take care of it.

2. Understanding the Twit:  Occasionally, someone joins a net or echo
with only one interest, to cause as much uproar as possible. They may
simply personally attack every person on the net, or sometimes they
attack every idea or subject thread they find, for the same purpose.
They are often racist, sexist, nationist, or just plain stupid. If the
rest of the members of the net refuse to communicate with the twit, s/he
will usually lose interest and stop posting.

Sometimes normally reasonable people become twits without realizing it,
taking some argument or disagreement past the point of courtesy and
drawing in others.  The discipline of electronic communication really
requires a more detached viewpoint than normal in other communication
medias, because the usual subliminal undercurrents of communication one
receives in other two-way mediums do not exist.  Sarcasm and humor can
easily become misunderstood, and cause unintended ill feelings.

In electronic mediums, honesty, tact, and straightforwardness are of
great significance.  Without them, communication can stop cold.

In dealing with twits, especially the more obvious ones, there are five
common sense rules to always use:

Echoer's Common Sense Rule #1 (ECSR1): If possible, never READ twit's
posts. Step over manure or your shoe will stink.

Echoer's Common Sense Rule #2 (ECSR2): Never ANSWER a twit's posts!!!!!
Stirring manure makes it stink worse.

Echoer's Common Sense Rule #3 (ECSR3): Never QUOTE a twit's posts!!!!!
That's like smearing manure on your friends!

Echoer's Common Sense Rule #4 (ESCR4): Never MENTION a twit to another
echoer!!!  That's like sharing a manure sandwich!

Echoer's Common Sense Rule #5 (ECSR5): LET THE MODERATOR HANDLE THE
TWIT!!!!!  He has the right kind of manure shovel.

With these few hints, communication over computers can become a true joy
instead of a cold hassle.

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